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You, Me, I
Up to 7 years, we form our core values, belief systems and behavioral patterns. They are impacted by folks we are surrounded with, our closest care givers, communities and circumstances.
All we care about at this age, "What I Care About Me?"
You, Me, I
As a young adult to many of your adult ages, we are constantly rediscovering, our role in society, and how we relate not just to ourselves but to those around us. As we figured out what I,/me means to us, we figure out there are others the You, which also triggers the ego within us. Fitting in becomes top priority, trying hard to answer for yourself and society, "What I would like others to think of me?"
Future Me
As we become adults, ideally our goals is to be sure of our core values, our purpose in our lives and how we will serve the larger human society. Serving the society one way or another, whether one wants to or not is a given. With selfish traits life may seem plenty for sometime, life will seek circumstances one way or another to serve those around us. Service is critical like a every flowing spring to your psyche.
As we grow, our goal is to have a clear understanding of what our future self shall look like and for that we must be vulnerable to face the tough question, "How does others actually see me?" Not what we would like us to see me, but what is the really truth of how people see us. This is the highest point of significant growth.
Physical Experiances
Our physical experiences are impacted much by our internal dialogues learned at the earliest stage of growth. Our core values, figuring out our purpose in life through our emotional, mental and spiritual beliefs form the attract physical experiences as we become adults.
Learn
Curiosity is at the heart of learning, for it to be natural, and reflection is a loop that foster's learning. Learning about oneself becomes the cornerstone to ones growth and impact in society.
Hear the Silence
Listen to your inner voice quietly.
Contradiction
Enable space for Contradiction to simply exist or co-exist. Let it.
Curiosity
Curiosity is not just about learning its about building rapport with your inner critic. That voice that may be loud. Let it be loud. With Interest and Curiosity simply listen (as if you are patiently hearing a child share their special moment).
Temptation to Judge
Being human means we will judge, that's okay. Let the judgement come. It is normal human mind at work.
Acceptance
Giving ourselves mercy, grace and compassion with lots of kindness to all negative internal voice or dialogue inside you. When judgement, resistance, fight/flight/freeze shows up, let mercy, grace, kindness and acceptance lead the way.
Reflection
When we are able to feel the quiet, enable space for contradiction, see judgement as a normal mental attribute and give acceptance to harsh thoughts, we create a practice of reflection and curiosity that will foster growth as an upward growing loop.
Lead
Once we have a stable structured* practice system to manage our internal chaos, anxiousness towards life's challenges, hardships, overwhelm, and our own thinking patterns that work against us, we become certain in leading.
Resilience
Ability to navigate the hard. Moving from being stuck to being unstuck. Seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
Grit
Knowing what is worth to push through.
Quit
Knowing when its time to give yourself Grace and walk away. Pick your battles. Peace kindness over being "right".
Me vs Others
Care to add value for others to shine.
Empathy vs sympathy.
Serving that being served.
Understanding that being understood. Listening than needing to be listened to.
* however structure looks to meet one's unique needs.
Grow
Edge of One's Abilities
It is a the edge of a mountain that our minds body and spirit engages with determination to cross over to the next mountain we see across. An attitude so driven with focus and goal oriented. Growing pains exists but this innate human nature to accelerate and conquer, is where growth thrives.
Moving Mountains
We experience exhilaration, a clear vision, a mountain to conquer. This attitude is about knowing when we lead and when to follow. The willingness to serve more than to be served.
Purpose Aligned Grasp
When we are clear in our purpose, our actions meet that of the high good impacting many more than we ever imagined