I AM
People who inspired Connect. Lead. Learn. Grow.
In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete.
Louise Hay, 1926 - 2017
The art of tackling our coping mechanisms to problems, behaviors and believe systems to inspire change. Virginia Satir (1916 - 1988)
Status Quo & Resistance
Familiarity Shift
Validating
Loosening up the bricks that formed our deep rooted thinking patterns and coping mechanisms.
Talking to your Inner Child, By Jefferson Fisher examples. 'You' 'I' or 'me' as your inner child, your higher soul self and your ego self. Addressing the inner child, to accept the root of the problem is learned in the past somewhere between 0 to 12 years. Spend some time here before moving to other stages to really come into face to face with your issues and be in peace with problems. Looking at problems from a place of compassion, peace and acceptance is key. When ready, its okay to use, I, you and me statements together. Creating a moment of awareness of the problem as well as reduce the intensity of resistance one may be feeling towards inner growth.
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It makes sense that You are feeling or problem....(label your feeling, vocabulary by Susan David)
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It makes sense that You weren't allowed to communicate your needs.
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It makes sense that You, I, me are feeling angry. (repeat over until you feel different and heard).
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I hear You, it makes sense that You are feeling.....address the problem
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It makes sense that I, You, me are harshly judging ....address the problem
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Write down your biases that show up. Be gentle and try your best to not to judge, be harsh and try to empathize than being self-critical.
Chaos & Integration
Vulnerability - A Space for Opportunities for New Learnings
I AM, I, ME, YOU Statements
Vulnerability is the space where we are now aware of our thinking patterns, coping mechanisms that aren't aligned with growth or our values. We have done the inner work to loosen up the tight thinking patterns and coping mechanisms. We are now more aware of what is not working or helping us to become our best. This is the space where new growth becomes more smoother and new learnings start to replace the old thinking patterns and new coping mechanisms could be learned.
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I am open and ready for everything that the universe is conspiring in my favor to make my dreams come true. (Holistic Therapist Gayathri Shivaram)
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I effortlessly move through my pain .....
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I effortlessly let go of this unsafe feeling every time I feel pain.
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I AM fully capable of fulfilling my emotional needs, and see, regard, validate your emotional needs as they show up.
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Write down a bias list of items that shows up. Write down as the feelings come as is.
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For example, one of my colleagues had trouble trusting people in general as soon as the relationship became intimate. For their case, they wrote down (with their permission to publish). They now have amazing relationships since releasing their root cause of thinking patterns and coping mechanisms. Their thinking patterns may come up but they are now able to quickly recognize, label, and switch their thinking, actions and behaviors to their newly learned value-driven actions and behavious.
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Step 1:- I don't trust anyone because they are not worth it and just don't trust anyone as people cheat you and people don't accept you even when they like you a lot.
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Step 2:- It makes sense that You, I and me don't trust anyone. (repeat as needed verbally or writing as needed)*
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Step 3:- I effortlessly release all my inner deep intense need to distrust people.*
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Step 4:- I effortlessly accept this part of me that cannot trust anyone.*
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Step 5:- I Love You/ME/I Unconditionally.
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Step 6:- I Accept You/I/ME Unconditionally.
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Step 7:- I Trust You/I/ME Unconditionally.
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New Status Quo
Assimilation & Visualizations
I AM - The Power of Intention - Wishes Fulfilled
This is where no we solidify our new thinking patterns with a clear goal and pathways to how we will act when challenges arise. When life comes, how will be face is now a new coping mechanism and a new thinking pattern. While we work to get comfortable with these new habits, solidifying them for at least 30 days or so will help lay out a clear foundation with the new bricks that you now relearned.
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Power of I AM - Changed my life to attract and manifest my best. Learn More, Wayne Dwyer
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Fulfilling your wishes through power of visualization and imagination. Wishes Fulfilled, by Wayne Dwyer.
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Create I AM statements for meeting your spiritual, emotional, physical needs. Create I AM statements for clearly identifying your career goals, professional growth points and meeting higher financial goals. Be as specific as possible. Repeat daily am on waking up and pm before heading to sleep.
Creating High-Impact Inspiring Teams
Team Member Gifts
Walking the WHY (Preetha Kingsview, CLLG Groups)
Effort
Engage
Initiatives
Working at the Edge
of One’s ABILITY
Time
Energy
Innovative Ideas
An award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist
Vanessa Van Edwards, behavioral researcher, founder of Science of People, bestselling author, and social skills expert.
Communicating for personal and professional growth. Vanessa's research based communication strategies elevates engagement and connection leading to meaningful dialogue and conversations. Meeting Vanessa has been one of the most gratifying and best moments of my personal/professional growth. This is one of my favorite sections. If you's like to learn more read her books, Captivate, Cues and Conversation (coming in Oct 2026).